Series: Marriage on the Rock… Sermon 1- Get Your Head on Straight.
This sermon series is a straightforward look at how to make marriage work during difficult times. Even when your marriage feels like its on the rocks, through Christ your marriage can be firmly founded on the ROCK- Jesus.
We begin this series in this first sermon setting the Biblical call to set your expectations right. Marriages fall apart when their foundation is cracked. If you don’t get these first things straight, it is impossible to get the rest of your marriage to function right.
Everyone has expectations, and that’s the problem in marriage. Rarely do we meet each others expectations. And when expectations are unmet, anger boils up and the fight is on. So, it is vital that we set the expectations for marriage correctly. That is what Paul does in Ephesians 5. There is one expectation- you are to submit yourself to your spouse. That means you are to put yourself in the role of servant. You were created to meet their needs.
The trick is that you must refuse to expect anything in return. God is your source of sustenance, not your spouse. However, your natural selfishness says, “NO! This is about my needs. I deserve to be treated fairly! If they don’t meet my needs, then I’m not meeting theirs.” That is not the model of Christ we are to follow. We are to look at Christ’s sacrificial love, and lavish the same kind of love on our spouse- we give without expectation of return.
When both spouses get their heads straight, and focus on their servanthood as a response to God’s grace in their life, then everyone gets their needs met and nobody is manipulated. It’s hard to fight when you’re not expecting anything in return for your service to your spouse.